Several years ago, I was contacted by a couple for a Feng Shui consultation. They did not know much about Feng Shui, but they had recently become “empty nesters.”
The wife was discontent that the bedrooms of their two grown kids were now turning into junk rooms. She wanted to make sure to use the spaces in ways that would be enriching for her and her husband.
It was a nice older house, well built and cleverly designed. The husband and wife were both professionals who were doing well in their fields.
Because they were doing so well, I was surprised, when they showed me their dining room, to see that they had an old Formica dining table, and old, plain chairs. Instead of a China cabinet or buffet, they had a cheap press-board armoire.
I asked why their dining area had such plain furniture. Their answer: they bought the furniture in college, when they were broke, and they never thought to replace the dining set or the armoire because they were still in good condition — they had not broken.
I told the couple that keeping this furniture was keeping them in the poverty consciousness that they experienced while they were in college. I recommended that they replace the dining area furniture with new, more elegant pieces.
I suggested that they turn one of the unused bedrooms into a home office for the husband, who often brought work home. The other room was to be an arts and crafts room for the wife.
Several months later, I received an email with one of the most beautiful testimonials ever.
Changing the Perception of Themselves
The couple had visited several furniture stores, but did not find a set that they completely loved. They commissioned an Amish furniture store to build them a custom made set. It was considerably more than any ready made set, but they felt that if they were going to spend a good amount of money in furniture they might as well get something they really, really loved.
When the set was finally brought it, it vitalized the whole home. Every evening, when they came home, they had a different perception of themselves from looking at their new, beautiful furniture.
They started seeing themselves as “people who could afford things.” This one perception of themselves transformed their lives forever.
People Who Could Afford Things
One day they decided that they were the kind of people who could afford to consult a nutritionist. The result: achieving healthier weights and resolving health conditions that had plagued them for years. They had not known that these health conditions were being caused by sensitivities to foods they were used to consume.
Another day, the wife decided that she could afford better tools, and higher quality arts and crafts supplies. As a result of that, and having dedicated space in the home to do what she loved, the quality of her art skyrocketed.
People Worth Investing In
They did not become spendthrifts, but they started seeing themselves as valuable people, who deserved to make investments in themselves and their pleasure once in a while.
After all these years, I still get a kick of seeing all the fun things they do on Facebook. They travel, they go on adventures, they try new experiences. They are happy.
The interesting thing is that when I met them, they were already pretty happy people. After Feng Shui, though, they began to experience levels of happiness — and a continuity of happiness — that they had not seen before. This happiness came from making financial allowances for themselves.
Because they learned to take better care of themselves, they became more productive.
After they started investing in themselves, their wealth grew. This is not surprising, because a sense of self worth and wealth are in the same life area (located at the back left corner of the home, when seen from the street).