I want you to turn your home into a dream home, where you can be happy with your loved ones.
But it’s really hard to be happy when tensions run high.
Arguments among family members can be triggered by differences in personalities. This is why it’s essential that you learn to understand your own personality and the personalities of the people with whom you live.
However, arguments can also be triggered by sources of irritation in the home.
There are 9 argument triggers we recognize in the Nine Steps to Feng Shui® System. In this article, I’ll share with you the top 3.
Top Three Feng Shui Argument Triggers
An argument trigger in the home is a situation that increases irritability. The more irritable people are on a regular basis, the more likely they are to get into arguments.
Here are the top argument triggers in a home:
- The stove and sink are too close.
- Doors that hit other doors when they open.
- Drawers and doors that get stuck.
1 – The Stove and Sink are Too Close to Each Other
In the kitchen, the biggest representation of the fire element is the stove (even if it’s electric). The biggest representation of water is the sink. Water puts out fire.
When the stove and the sink are too close, either opposite each other, next to each other, or at 90 degrees to each other, there’s the potential of getting water splattered on the stove top. This potential creates tension, tension leads to irritability, and irritability leads to arguments.
Basically, if a person was cooking and another person was doing dishes at the same time in your kitchen, would they get in each other’s way? If they would, you are dealing with a problem of water putting out fire, which translates into a higher chance of arguments.
2 – Doors that Hit Each Other When They Open
Doors that hit each other when they open are an annoyance, but they also represent the possibility of conflict.
If two people were each trying to open one of those doors at the same time, both their arms would feel the jarring from the clash.
When designing a home, a good architect would make sure that no doors hit other doors when they open.
3 – Drawers and Doors that Get Stuck
Drawers can get stuck because the opening and closing mechanism is worn out, because the wood has deformed, or because they are too full. Doors can get stuck because the wood has swollen up, because the hinges have warped, or because other components of the home had shifted and the opening is no longer square
Whatever the reason that doors or drawers are stuck, they are a huge source of irritation. You get irritated with stuck drawers and doors because they interrupt the flow of what you were trying to do. However, much of the frustration comes from the physical impact and jarring caused by the resistance of the materials, and the requirement for you to use force to try to pry them open.
If you encountered this frustration once in a while, it wouldn’t be a problem. But this frustration repeated again, and again and again – it builds up! And if you have a headache, or a migraine, that’s the day you kick the door, drop the drawer on the floor, or take it out on a loved one.
What to Do at Home to Reduce Arguments and Get Along
Reducing arguments at home is a two-prong approach.
- On the one hand you need to make the necessary corrections on your physical home. For example, add rubber stops to doors that hit each other to absorb the noise and reduce the shock. Fix doors and change hinges so they don’t get stuck. Declutter and fix drawers.
- On the other hand, you need to learn to understand yourself and your family members by studying the Five Elements Personality Types.
Register for the webinar below to learn how to understand yourself and your loved ones to reduce friction and become a stronger family.
As soon as you register, I’ll send you a document to help you identify your personality type and that of your loved ones, by looking at how each keeps their own spaces.
